It's crazy that not long ago women couldn't vote, seems unreal to me. But nowadays, it seems just as crazy that women somehow try to be like men. They deny their gender in social and professional activities just so they'll be equal to men and have no gain based on the fact they're women [not that they should have, but some motivate their shift in gender perspective with this idea].
There are obvious genetic differences to start with. But my point is not to prove that we are not equal, just that we could at least accept that we are different. And there's nothing wrong with that. We are all different at a personal level, therefore some things should not be categorized so broadly into genders or blamed on gender.
If you feel like a woman, if you define yourself as a woman, if you find a word for who you are, there's nothing wrong with that.
But when you feel like it's wrong to call yourself a woman, to describe yourself like that, in comparison to a man, then you have a gender issue.
Being equal to men doesn't mean that we have to stop being women or blame the woman-idea that we get from the society as we grow.
Personally, I find it hard to repress the need for some of the things I'm used to - being spoiled, treated gently. But this is not something I like or need because I am a woman, these are natural feelings that anyone can have.
A person is so much more than just a gender, an emotion, an attitude. We are complex and often have mixed feelings. I know I am like that - I like doing sports, hanging out with the boys, being rough on the field, but then again, you will find me at the spa, having a massage, a facial treatment, buying dresses, laughing with the girls, crying over some stupid thing or sometimes not being able to feel a thing, not giving a damn about anyone or anything, not wanting babies, being selfish, loving to have own personal rituals and so on. I fluctuate between extremes of whatever you want to call it - good and evil, male and female, rough and gentle ...
A lot of you could fit in this description regardless of your gender.
I don't have the knowledge, the studies or the experience to pretend I'm right. It's not something I want to clarify in a few lines in a blog. But after all, everything is mixed up, all our approval or denial is influenced by a context in society. And then, all these ideas can get blurry ... when do you draw the line? What is or is not normal for you as a woman [ genetically] to do or not do in a social life [interacting with men and women] and in a professional life? When you strongly deny any women-like features.
I know that all these words are the result of my path, my interest in expending my views [or not], my environment, my culture and there are many people out there that can't digest such a perspective due to many reasons. Therefore I can't inflict my truth upon others - I like who I am and I won't give up on the things I like regardless of how they are judged by others. You know that saying: we can't choose our relatives, but we can choose our friends.
There are obvious genetic differences to start with. But my point is not to prove that we are not equal, just that we could at least accept that we are different. And there's nothing wrong with that. We are all different at a personal level, therefore some things should not be categorized so broadly into genders or blamed on gender.
If you feel like a woman, if you define yourself as a woman, if you find a word for who you are, there's nothing wrong with that.
But when you feel like it's wrong to call yourself a woman, to describe yourself like that, in comparison to a man, then you have a gender issue.
Being equal to men doesn't mean that we have to stop being women or blame the woman-idea that we get from the society as we grow.
Personally, I find it hard to repress the need for some of the things I'm used to - being spoiled, treated gently. But this is not something I like or need because I am a woman, these are natural feelings that anyone can have.
A person is so much more than just a gender, an emotion, an attitude. We are complex and often have mixed feelings. I know I am like that - I like doing sports, hanging out with the boys, being rough on the field, but then again, you will find me at the spa, having a massage, a facial treatment, buying dresses, laughing with the girls, crying over some stupid thing or sometimes not being able to feel a thing, not giving a damn about anyone or anything, not wanting babies, being selfish, loving to have own personal rituals and so on. I fluctuate between extremes of whatever you want to call it - good and evil, male and female, rough and gentle ...
A lot of you could fit in this description regardless of your gender.
I don't have the knowledge, the studies or the experience to pretend I'm right. It's not something I want to clarify in a few lines in a blog. But after all, everything is mixed up, all our approval or denial is influenced by a context in society. And then, all these ideas can get blurry ... when do you draw the line? What is or is not normal for you as a woman [ genetically] to do or not do in a social life [interacting with men and women] and in a professional life? When you strongly deny any women-like features.
I know that all these words are the result of my path, my interest in expending my views [or not], my environment, my culture and there are many people out there that can't digest such a perspective due to many reasons. Therefore I can't inflict my truth upon others - I like who I am and I won't give up on the things I like regardless of how they are judged by others. You know that saying: we can't choose our relatives, but we can choose our friends.
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